Finding Solace in Understanding: My Journey as a Highly Sensitive Person

Growing up, I always felt like I was on the outside looking in. Everything around me seemed to hit harder, emotions were more intense, and I found myself constantly observing and analyzing the world around me. While others seemed blissfully unaware, I was acutely attuned to the emotions and social cues of those around me.

I remember moments when I would see someone misunderstood or overlooked, and I felt compelled to reach out and offer support. Whether it was a classmate being labeled as a show-off when they were simply excited about new shoes or a stranger struggling to communicate in a foreign language, I couldn’t stand by and watch. It was as if I had a heightened sense of empathy and a deep-seated need to help others.

But this sensitivity came at a cost. I often found myself overwhelmed by the intensity of my own emotions and the constant barrage of stimuli from the world around me. I cried easily, felt deeply, and struggled to navigate social interactions that seemed to elude others effortlessly.

It wasn’t until later in life that I discovered there was a name for what I was experiencing – I was a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP). Learning about HSPs and emotional intelligence was like a revelation for me. For the first time, I realized that I wasn’t alone in my experiences and that there were others out there who felt things just as deeply as I did.

Through therapy and self-reflection, I began to understand the unique gifts and challenges that come with being an HSP. I learned strategies for managing my sensitivity, setting boundaries, and practicing self-care. I also discovered the power of emotional intelligence – the ability to recognize, understand, and manage both my own emotions and those of others.

Embracing my identity as an HSP has been a journey of self-discovery and acceptance. I’ve learned to appreciate the depth of my emotions and the richness they bring to my life. I’ve also found a sense of community and belonging among fellow HSPs who understand and validate my experiences.

If you’re reading this and resonating with my story, know that you’re not alone. Being a Highly Sensitive Person is not a flaw or a weakness – it’s a unique trait that comes with its own set of strengths and challenges. If you suspect that you might be an HSP or are curious about emotional intelligence, I’ve included a list of questions below to help you explore further:

1. Do you often feel overwhelmed by loud noises, bright lights, or strong smells?
2. Do you have a rich inner life and a vivid imagination?
3. Do you find yourself deeply affected by other people’s moods and emotions?
4. Do you need time alone to recharge after social interactions?
5. Do you have a strong sense of empathy and compassion for others?
6. Do you notice subtleties in your environment that others often overlook?
7. Do you prefer deep, meaningful conversations over small talk?
8. Do you find it challenging to set boundaries and say no to others?

If you answered yes to many of these questions, you may be a Highly Sensitive Person or possess a high level of emotional intelligence. Remember, embracing and understanding your sensitivity is the first step towards harnessing its power and living authentically. You are not alone on this journey.

If you are interested in knowing how to cope with being highly sensitive and feeling so deeply I wrote a short list of ways to do so here: